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Believe it or not, this is actually aimed at both the male and female audience.

Unless your an axe-murderer or serial rapist, you should just be yourself. I did, however, think of a few things a man shouldn’t do on a date. These are urban legends that guys swear girls like, but we really don’t.

Avoid talking about the ex. Just don’t, ever. When you do, all it tells the girl is that you’re not over your last relationship, and you tend to give off a sappy wilting flower type attitude, and girls, we don’t want that. If you are however questioned about the topic, feel free to briefly state what happened and move on with the conversation! Every girl knows that in high school, mostly everyone has exes, and remembers that exes are exes for a reason and shouldn’t ask anyway. A realistic girl will respect your privacy and then, maybe, will secretly look the ex up on Facebook later.

So unless your ex was Megan Fox or the girl walks in on the date and pours a drink on you, we don’t care who she is.
Don‘t brag. Boys, it’s nice to hear about your accomplishments and how dedicated you are to things, but after you start reciting to us everyday how many bench presses you can do or how much your new nice shoes are we kind of turn our heads and say “Wow, this kid is full of himself.” Girls LOVE being spoiled and receiving gifts but money isn’t everything. If you really want to impress a girl, show her something you’re passionate about.
Let go of your cell phone. We get it. You’re important, you’re wanted, you have a lot of friends, but alright already! When you keep constantly texting or checking your phone you give off a signal that says “I don’t want to be here right now.“ Simply put, it’s just rude. You should have just stayed home to text instead of sitting with a girl having her watch you text. If you’re texting, you should be texting one of your homeboys telling him how cute your girl is – better yet, texting her to tell her how cute she is!
If you can’t dance, don’t dance. The only thing worse than someone who can’t dance is someone who can’t dance but thinks they can. You don’t have to be a wallflower, but don’t feel the need to impress a girl with skills you don’t have. If you’re rhythmically challenged, just cheat and do the typical guy dance floor stance: 2-step, and then every now and then put your hands in the air to the beat or if that’s too much for you to handle simply put them on the girl’s waist but only if she’s initiating physical contact already. Or maybe just take a girl out to dinner instead.
Give her some space. If she doesn’t really talk to you after the date, just let it be. Maybe call the day after to see how she’s doing and if she starts up a conversation, then take a breath, and be yourself. If not, let her go and move on, If you sulk about a girl for too long, she becomes an obsession and you begin to repel girls. Following her and taking up her space all the time will only make her think that you‘re desperate, but if you play it cool for a couple of days, you’ll seem hard to get, and she’ll be thinking of you.